Across the Room


Q. How long have you been in business?

Across the Room was founded in 1991 – that’s long enough to be firmly established. We have an excellent track record – around 80% of new agencies disappear within the first eighteen months.

Q. How can you be sure that the members at Across the Room are single?

We take steps to ensure that all the information given to us on the application form is correct and of course we do send the programme to their home address and contact them using their home and work telephone numbers. If people are not willing to give this information then we decline their application for membership of Across the Room.

Q. Which membership is best for me?

If you are looking to meet that special someone then the dating agency services of our dating agency is best. There is no better way to immediately boost your social life with splendid social events and to meet the type of person you are looking for. So we are sure that our fantastic Dating Agency offering you Personal Introductions or our Sparkling Singles Events will fit the bill!

Q. What about confidentiality?

We do not divulge any confidential information without your permission.

Q. Why do I need to register?

The registration fee helps to contribute towards the constant advertising campaigns on TV, Radio, and the national and local press. This level of advertising ensures that at each Across the Room event you will always have the opportunity of meeting new single people and making new and lasting friends.

Q. Where does Across the Room advertise?

Across the Room advertises on TV and Radio, Google, in the Saturday and Sunday Times, The Telegraph, The Guardian and the quality local press.

Q. How many current members do you have?

Across the Room has over twenty thousand members. Members are spread across Essex, Herts, Suffolk, Norfolk, Cambs, Kent, Berkshire and London. We currently recruit over 150 new members each month!

Q. What is the average age of Across the Room members?

Across the Room holds many different types of singles events to suit all age groups, hence the average age of members attending does vary accordingly. We have members with ages from thirty five to eighties.

Q. Are the members all professional?

We do try to ensure that they have either a professional background, or otherwise make a useful contribution to society in their own special way. But primarily our members are successful in their own field and enjoy socialising in good company.

Q. What happens after I have sent in my application form?

Both our Dating Agency and Singles Events members are sent a programme of the forthcoming singles events. They can call Eleanor and the team or book events online to join the party! If members need any advice, they just need to call the office and the Across the Room team will be there to offer any help or guidance.

Dating agency members are asked to make an appointment for their initial interview so that their profile and the profile of the person they would like to meet can be compiled. Once these profiles have been reviewed and agreed, details of their prospective dates will then be sent to them.

If you have any other questions then please do not hesitate
to Contact Us and we will be here to help in any way that we can.

Dating Agency

Q. What makes Across the Room so different from internet dating?

Statistics show that the high majority of the single population have tried internet dating at some point in their lives and have found that the online method falls below their expectations. A combination of lengthy emails, old photo’s and people who are NOT seeking a lasting relationship – just playing the system leads to wasted time, frustration and disappointment!

Across The Room offers an exclusive, individual personalised service, we meet you face to face. We treat you as an individual. A photo shoot guarantees up to date photos. A in-depth interview to get to know our prospective members and ensure that they are seeking a genuine lasting relationship. Direct contact with your matches (no lengthy emails!). No need to display your profile on the World Wide Web, we are a private and discreet agency. The members that register with Across The Room are sincere people who are seeking a lasting relationship. We will introduce you to members in your geographical area who are genuinely single, ready to embark on a new relationship and match your requirements as discussed with your consultant.

Q. Why is Across the Room so highly regarded?

Our dating agency and singles events have been bringing couples together since 1991. Our ever growing membership enjoys the attention to detail at all our functions. Our members comment on the excellent and discerning company they meet and the friends they make. Such satisfaction obviously gets talked about – hence our reputation!

Q. Will you be able to find me suitable introductions on the Dating Agency

You will have opportunities to meet many of our carefully selected members through singles social events or our Personal Introduction Agency. The more restrictive you are in terms of the profile you seek, the fewer profiles you will receive. So give yourself a chance to meet a variety – it makes sense.

Q. I have tried other dating agencies with little success, why Across the Room?

You will not be just a name on a computer. We provide a personal service, at both our singles events and our One to One Personal Introductions. Our excellent reputation and advertising supplies us with hundreds of new members each month, so our Personal Introductions will be plentiful and just for you.

Q. Is Across the Room a dating service or a marriage bureau?

Across the Room offers two levels of service. First we offer our dating agency, personal dating introductions for members who are primarily seeking long term stable relationships or marriage and would like the personal service of a dating agency. The second is the Singles Events for members who primarily wish to boost their social life and make new friends. We are not specifically a marriage bureau, however we have many successes of which we are proud.

Q. Do you interview prospective members?

Prospective Dating Agency members looking for one to one dates are personally interviewed. Prospective singles events members are not formally interviewed, but they may visit the office if they wish to discuss the social scene.

Q. Do you have a high success rate?

Across the Room Dating Agency has been successfully matching single members for over 20 years. We have had numerous weddings and countless happy couples living in a long term, stable relationships.

Q. Can I telephone for advice?

Yes of course, that is part of our service. We are here to advise you on all aspects of your membership of Across the Room whether you are a Dating Agency or Singles Events member.

Q. Will I meet the same members at the singles events and the dating agency introductions?

With the large membership of Across the Room spread over Essex, Herts, Suffolk, Norfolk, Cambs, Kent, Berkshire and London. It is unlikely that all prospective introductions would be met at the purely social events. Indeed, we do find that the majority of our dating agency members prefer the individual dates rather than attending the Social Scene.

Q. Will the dating agency introductions be in my area?

Our dating agency membership is drawn from Essex, Herts, Suffolk, Norfolk, Cambs, Kent, Berkshire and London so it is likely that prospective introductions will be local to you.

Q. I am interested in: a stable long-term relationship, will your Dating Agency Personal Introductions be right for me?

Absolutely right for you, as people who make the commitment and take the time to meet other members are seriously looking for a stable relationship. We believe that life’s most transforming and ultimately enriching journey, is the quest for a soul mate.


If you have any other questions then please do not hesitate
to Contact Us and we will be here to help in any way that we can.

Singles Events & Social Scene

Q. This is totally new to me. I feel quite nervous; do others feel like this?

Yes, many people are just as nervous as yourself at the outset, but soon realise that everyone is in the same situation and butterflies soon disappear when you find yourself in such charming and friendly company.

Q. Who can I expect to meet at your singles parties?

You may wish to meet people with similar attitudes and interests to yourself, there should be a common ground to promote compatibility, although we do often find that opposites attract! You will meet intelligent, stimulating, attractive single people who will enhance your already busy lifestyle.

Q. Do you cater for vegetarians

At all Across the Room dinner parties there is a vegetarian option. Members are asked when booking if they require a vegetarian meal.

Q. What happens if at a dinner party I do not get on with the person who is sitting next to me

At all Across the Room dinner parties and dinner dances the gentlemen, or sometimes ladies, are asked to move onto a new table after each course, so you will not be seated by the same person throughout the evening.

Q. What is the cost of the events?

If you are used to socialising, you will know that any quality restaurant or hotel will charge £30.00 to £40.00 per person for a 3 course meal. At Across the Room we take pride in our venues, a typical Dinner & Dance including both wine and entertainment will cost an average of £45.00. Our Club Nights are a great way to get out for just £8.00!

Q. Do I have to attend a minimum number of Singles Events?

No, you receive a programme of forthcoming events each quarter and you may choose whichever events you wish to attend

Q. What are the ratios at each social event?

We ensure as far as possible that men and women are evenly balanced in numbers.

Q. How often do you hold your singles social events?

We have an event each weekend and at least one a party night a month. We generally book a whole restaurant, hotel suite or country club for the evening. There are always new single members present

Q. Will there be singles social events in my area?

We hold events in the major towns of Essex, Herts, Suffolk, Norfolk, Cambs, Kent, Berkshire and London. In the summer our country hotel events are very popular. The wide range of events are designed to give members the opportunity to attend events both locally and if they wish to travel and meet members from other areas. So whichever area you live in, each month there will be events in your area.

Q. How many members attend the events?

The number of members attending an event is limited according to the type of event being held. At our Black Tie Balls we cater for over 250 members, our Party Nights attract over 300 single members, our Dinner Dances attract between 100 – 150 single members depending on the size of the venue and we also hold smaller events such as our Matchmaker Dinners and Walks.

Q. At my first party, will I walk into a room full of strangers?

Not at all, Eleanor and her welcoming committee will be there to meet you on arrival at all of the Singles Events, Dinner Dances, Black Tie Balls and Party Nights and introduce you to other single members. You will soon feel at ease and ready to enjoy yourself.

Q. What is the dress code?

All our Dinner Dances are jacket and tie; parties are smart casual and smart denim is allowed. Every month we have a Black Tie Dinner and Dance, where gentlemen wear a dinner jacket with bow tie and ladies long evening dresses.

Q. Do members come to events alone?

Yes, the vast majority of members attend events on their own. However, after their first event some members do link up and take turns to drive to events together.

Q. Can I attend events in other counties?

Yes, the vast majority of members attend events on their own. However, after their first event some members do link up and take turns to drive to events together.

Q. What happens if I don’t attend for a while?

If your circumstances change (e.g. dating or working overseas) and are not able to attend singles events then please let us know so that we can put you on hold. Upon your return please let us know and we shall send you the current programme.

If you have any other questions then please do not hesitate
to Contact Us and we will be here to help in any way that we can.